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If you're going through a divorce, and your attorney has recommended mediation, now's the time to prepare. Being prepared for the process can improve your chances of success. If you've never participated in mediation before, you might not know how to proceed. If this is you, read the list provided below. Here are four steps that can help to ensure effective mediation.
Know the Mediator
When it comes to mediation, the best thing you can do is choose the right mediator. First, make sure that your attorney recommends the mediator. This can ensure that the mediator is trained to provide mediation services. Second, familiarize yourself with the mediator you plan to use. Doing your homework will help you to identify any potential biases that might adversely affect the mediation process. Finally, make sure that you're comfortable with the mediator you choose. It's also a good idea to choose a mediator that both you and your spouse can agree on. Agreement about the mediator can help to alleviate some of the stress and anxiety.
Act in Good Faith
If you've decided to go through with divorce mediation, be prepared to act in good faith. Many people enter mediation expecting the process to fail before it ever gets started. Unfortunately, that approach can lead to serious problems. The best way to avoid complications is to enter mediation with a desire to act in good faith. That way, you're more willing to listen to what the mediator has to say about the situation.
If your attorney has recommended divorce mediation, take the time to prepare for the process. One way to do that is to gather everything you'll need for effective mediation. This should include gathering all of the documents you need to prove the existence of marital assets and debts. For instance, you should make a detailed list of everything you own, including cars, houses, and bank account information. This information will come in handy once the mediation enters the assets and debt division phase.
Finally, if you and your spouse have agreed to participate in divorce mediation, be reasonable in your approach. Many people enter mediation with a desire to get everything they want from the divorce. Unfortunately, that approach can create unrealistic expectations and can increase the risk of animosity, and a breakdown in communication. To avoid that risk, be willing to compromise where you can. A willingness to compromise can help you win where it matters.